Don’t Panic
The most important step. Of course, I’m probably a little overdramatic about these sorts of things. Your Hoo-Ha is VERY different from its original state. And by different I primarily mean tight. Birth has this effect on the vagina in weird ways one of them being that your elasticity may be utterly (isn’t that punny?!) different. Mine was. The process of using a cup again may take some time and that’s ok.
Don’t Rush Things
Seriously, take your time. Practice a little bit each cycle or even just wear it for 1 day and then fall back to cloth pads. Don’t overdo it. The elasticity will come back. At the very beginning, “down there” was like Fort Knox. I’m sure you read about vaginal elasticity when you were preparing for your first baby so I’d recommend doing those same exercises. It’s super important.
Don’t Buy a “Post-Birth” Cup Just Yet
I know some companies suggest getting another cup if you’ve had a baby but to be honest, that’s not always true. I didn’t have to buy the “size 2” and am still able to wear the pre-birth cup. Just give your old one a good try before you shell out another $30. But it’s ok if you need to get another size because again, all of our vaginas are different.
Don’t Give Up
You will get it, I promise. It may take 1 month or 6 months but I assure you will get back into your regular menstrual cup routine very soon. Be open to try new folds and make sure you are relaxed.
My experience may be very different than yours. I just wanted to write this in case there were any of you who did have the same panic attack I did when I tried to get into my cup routine again. Be gentle with yourself. <3
For a more detailed post on how to use a Menstrual Cup, check out my post 5 Reasons to Switch to a Menstrual Cup.
Thanks for sharing your story. It will help not feeling alone when my period decide to came back and i will have to return to use the menstrual cup. 🙂
Good luck! Just be gentle and patient with yourself – postpartum hormones are the worst when it comes to us being overly critical of ourselves. 🙂
Thanks for writing this. I’ve struggled to use my Diva cup post-baby. I haven’t been very patient but they are so great to use, I’m encouraged to try again.
Good luck, Anne! I think it was more difficult to use the cup after having a baby than when I first learned to use one, honestly.
Oh, so much for me to look forward too 🙂 I’ll be referring back to this when my time comes.
lol it’s quite the adventure! I remember thinking to myself…”Am I broken, now?” 😀
Beautiful article and wonderful message! Thank you for your honesty. I love using the menstrual cup! It is so liberating! I think it is so important to share the message as often as we can in a positive and approachable way. Thank you for getting the message out there. Looking forward to reading more on your lovely blog! Love, Ina <3
Thank you so much, Ina! You are so very kind! I will forever try to normalize cups – I just love them. But I understand that they are not for everyone and that’s perfectly fine, too. 🙂
I totally agree. At first I had my problems with the cup as well, but I’m really glad I gave it another try. <3
Thank you for this article. I am 11 months postpartum and just got my first cycle. I was nearly in tears fumbling with my previously (pre-baby) perfect menstrual cup, and was about to give up and return to icky pads/tampons. Even though there is plenty of information in the mommy forums, this article really gave me the reassurance I needed. Thank you!
Thank you for writing this! This was the most helpful read in my search. I have the added issue of having had an unplanned vacuum extraction after 6 hours of pushing. I can’t find anything on this specific topic besides websites on what it is (my baby and I already lived it, don’t want to read about the horrors). I will keep trying to use my cup (and/or the new one I bought that doesn’t fit either) and keep using pads til then. Thanks for the encouragement!
Good luck and don’t get discouraged. It took me several months to get things back to normal. 🙂
My period came back 15.5 months post baby. My experience is the complete opposite! My cup is so uncomfortable and I’m completely discouraged bc it feels like it’s falling out.
Great article. First thing I’ve found that’s been helpful and encouraging. I’m struggling with this at 14 months post partum and have been using cloth pads since I got my period back 4 months after delivery. They are great but just another thing to wash so keen to go back to the cup. I’m both tighter/less elastic (at the vaginal opening) but also finding that it’s not staying in place and is slipping down. I changed brands as well as sizes so that would be my only extra suggestion, go the same brand you had before (if you used one successfully before pregnancy) in case that’s a factor.
Thank you for this article! My period came back 11 months after giving birth. I have tried using the same cup as before, but it was difficult. Before the baby, me and the cup were besties, after the baby, well, more like distant cousins. I thought about the muscles needing adjustments, but ultimately I think the issue is the size, since it keeps sliding down.
Thank goodness I’m not the only one! I’ve just had my period return after baby number 3. I’ve used my cup since having baby number 2, and thought surely things haven’t changed that much. I’ll keep trying and hopefully it gets better and comfortable again
Hi.
Just want to say thanks for sharing this. I’ve been using pads and I have no issue with them but I would like to go back to cup. I find it so much easier but I haven’t been able to use it since I gave birth. I’m just now feeling ready to give them a go but I have to say it’s a struggle. Glad to hear I’m not the only one. Thanks again for tips.
I’m glad I’m not alone! My first period came 8 weeks after delivering and while I could get it in, it now sits too low but trying to take it out was terrifying feeling, whereas before I felt totally capable of plucking it out without thinking twice. Oh the joys of childbirth!
FYI, your postpartum issues with tightness and incontinence are probably both issues with pelvic muscle tension. If they continue, a pelvic floor therapist can probably resolve them with postpartum physical therapy (perhaps the most underutilized treatment in women’s health). Just don’t rely on Kegals because those can backfire.